the Nudge

#31

The Art of Being Right

#30

Is Altruism Real, or Just a Good Deed With a Halo?

#29

What Makes a Friendship Last

#28

Why Repair Is Expensive and Loss Is on Sale

#27

Why Toxic Relationships Have the Best Sex

#26

Let's Test Your Emotional Intelligence

#25

Jack Was Never Real

#22

The Hanging Theory

#21

Healing Is Starting to Sound Like the Ugliest Word I Know

#20

One Big Fat Misconception About Coping Mechanisms

#19

The Appendicitis Coach

#18

Who Deserves Compassion?

#17

The Architecture of Being Unknown

#16

They Could Always Do It

#15

Your Honor, It's You Again

#13

For Anyone Who Grew Up With the Silent Treatment

#12

Why We Are Obsessed With Comparing Our Lives

#11

The Myth of Trauma Closure

#10

Why You Regret Decisions You Made While Struggling

Why Sad Movies Feel Dangerous

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Grave of the Fireflies and the Brother Who Never Existed

The Hundred Squares We Inherited

Michael Jackson: What Talent Survives

Why Believers Get What Skeptics Can't

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The Hundred Squares We Inherited

Imagine your life as a grid of a hundred squares. Some are red. Some are green. Most of us never notice the difference until we watch someone we love disappear into the red ones.

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A Second Glance

The Art of Being Right

The reason you feel crazy after some conversations: you're being played. Here are 15 moves you've heard a thousand times.

9 min read

A Second Glance

Is Altruism Real, or Just a Good Deed With a Halo?

What if the most selfless act you can imagine is actually the most selfish thing you've ever done?

12 min read

A Second Glance

Jack Was Never Real

A reading of Titanic you won't be able to un-see. Proceed only if you're willing to have your favorite love story taken apart.

9 min read

Why Are You Like This?

One Big Fat Misconception About Coping Mechanisms

Your personality is not a crime scene. Stop letting TikTok convince you to scrutinize every little thing about yourself.

5 min read

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Healing Is Starting to Sound Like the Ugliest Word I Know

We think healing means we're done. It might just mean we've gotten very good at narrating the wound.

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The Loneliness of Emotional Awareness

Four eras, one uncomfortable pattern: every time mental health got easier to talk about, something else got worse.

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SeriesOne question,nudged over multiple essays.

If friendships are this fragile, how do any of them last?

from the The Fragility of Friendship series

The Hanging Theory

What happens when we stop telling people how to love us and let them show us instead? The good, the poison, and the paradox of giving someone enough rope.

9 min read

Why Repair Is Expensive and Loss Is on Sale

Everything worth keeping is priced in the one currency nobody wants to spend. So most people take the discount.

12 min read

What Makes a Friendship Last

Friendship has no contract, no blood, no law holding it together by default. It survives on vibes alone, which means most of them shouldn't survive at all. So why do some?

9 min read

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